Dreaming of Summer Retreats

This little shrine sits at the beginning of a trail down to the medicine circle on my lovely land in the Sierras, which we call Serenity. A few weeks ago, you couldn’t see any of it! It was covered in snow. Now, spring is here, the snow is melting, and things are emerging from their underground winter existence.

I’m emerging, too. As the spring arrives, my thoughts are turning to that medicine circle. So many wonderful journeys have happened there. Long summer days, surrounded by manzanita, shaded by oaks. And, later in the summer, the shade sails. Since we’re at 5000’ elevation, it’s usually not too hot. It’s quiet, except for birdsong. It’s private and secluded. And there is big magic there — a place that was created for healing and transformation, where lots of that has happened now.

I’m dreaming of a time, not too long from now, when I can go there again. Where I can hold the container for a person or couple to dive into deep waters, to do some major shifting. It’s the best!

A retreat is a beautiful way to do a big work. When you have a lot of time, it often goes in waves. There is a big opening, then an integration, then more opening, more integration. You can dive deep and get a lot done.

If you’re interested in learning more about a retreat, click here.

I’m beginning to open up my schedule for the summer and fall. I will begin these outdoor retreats in June, and there are a limited number of times available. Until May 1, I’m offering a 20% discount for pre-booking. If you know you want to do this, now is the time to save! Contact me for an interview to make sure we are a good fit.

If this is right for you, I look forward to supporting you in the next step in your growth and transformation!

What’s the Truth?

I was taking a walk in silence with my partner John the other day, and I noticed how my mind was really busy. I was being very judgmental with myself, criticizing myself for not doing things right, for not being perfect. Reminding myself of all the ways I am a failure.

I mentioned this to him, and he said, “Oh, I can relate! I do that too.” I think we all can. We are often our own harshest critics.

I grabbed his elbow and pulled him around to face me. “Let’s tell each other the truth about each other.”

I began. “You are kind and loving. You are wise and growing wiser. You are handsome and fun to be with. You are a wonderful lover.”

Then he told me, “You are beautiful. You radiate love to everyone you meet. You are deliciously sexy. You are enough.”

At that, I began weeping. It touched a core issue in me — never being enough. I have worked with it extensively over the years, but it is still there. The tears (and not very many) cleansed it once again.

This is part of how we can help each other heal, offering reflections that counter our beloved’s negative self-talk. It opens the mind to considering a different possibility.

And I believe that the truth about you, about anyone, is that you are worthy of love!

Ecstatic Flow

It’s a sublime experience to be with a beloved so intimately that your bodies move all on their own. It’s a wisdom beyond the mind, where your bodies are so tuned into the energy flows of the universe that they move together of their own volition.

This is a video of my partner John and me moving together in the water. There is a particular freedom of movement in the water that we both adore. Many, many hours of practice have gone into this for us.

The same movements can be translated to land, either on a dance floor or in lovemaking. The more attuned your bodies are to each other, the more beautiful is the dance of love!

We will be giving you a start to this ecstatic practice in our upcoming couple’s group, Luscious Loving. We won’t be in the water, but the principles are the same.

Join us for a free intro evening March 20 (next Monday!) Group begins March 27. Click this link to register or for more info.

May you flow together with your beloved with ease!

A Little Help From My Friends

Luscious Loving is getting a little help from my friends!

I’m excited to announce that my upcoming couple’s group is going to be deeply enriched by two of my favorite people in the world.

My beloved partner, John Thompson, will be joining me each session to assist with teaching about the ins and outs (pun intended!) of Luscious Loving. He will help me with demos and add his wisdom and the male perspective. Over the last nine years, the two of us have been in a deep dive into the exploration of what makes loving luscious. It’s really been a joint discovery of delight, and he has been an integral part of the illumination of the principles of Luscious Loving. I’m ecstatic that he will be chiming in with the wisdom he has accumulated.

And my former teaching partner, current land partner and dear friend Kevin Braheny Fortune will be making a special guest appearance for one of the evenings. He will be bringing his considerable wisdom to the topic of healing within a relationship. Kevin and I taught together for many years in the SF Bay Area, and I deeply respect the loving presence he brings to his teachings.

We will be blessed by both of them!

It’s coming up soon! Click here for more info.

Join us for a free intro evening on March 20, 2023. Group begins March 27!

Luscious Loving

What Does It Take?

What does it take to have luscious loving?

There are several different qualities that are necessary for a relationship to blossom. If any of them are missing, there’s a piece missing from the relationship. It’s not as well-rounded and complete.

Connection and intimacy are crucial to a sweet relationship. When connection is there, everything else flows more smoothly. But sometimes there are obstacles to connection, like the distractions and obligations of a busy life. Luckily, there are simple yet profound practices that allow you to drop into connection quickly and easily.

Sometimes the barrier to connection is deeper. We all carry some wounding around intimacy and sexuality, if nothing else as a result of growing up in a sex-negative culture that layers this beautiful energy with guilt and shame. Additionally, many people have experienced some form of abuse that has left its mark. Therefore, healing is often a necessary part of a relationship, to clear the way to let someone in.

Body rapport is a fun quality to cultivate — the knowledge of your partner’s body, whether it be through dancing, playing, massage or making love. When each partner knows the other’s body, an unconscious trust develops that is centered in the body.

Passion is easy at first, but often it wanes as a couple is together longer. It’s easy to get into routine and let the passion grow flat. Or sometimes it’s a matter of learning the art of pleasuring — how to touch so your partner quivers in delight!

Spaciousness is somewhat counter-intuitive, but very important. It creates the opportunity to be your authentic self. The more you are yourself, the more interesting you become to your beloved. And the more space you give your beloved, the more fascinating they become to you.

When all these qualities are in place, it makes a platform where you can not only enjoy a wildly satisfying loving relationship, but you can use your sexual energy for energizing things that you want to manifest in the world, or for a magnificent spiritual awakening, or just to enjoy life!

My upcoming couple’s group, Luscious Loving, will be a place to dive into each of these qualities. In the comfort of your own home, you will get to explore and experience in each of these areas.

Click here for more info.

Join me, assisted by my beloved partner John Thompson, for a free intro evening on March 20, 2023. Group begins March 27!

You can have Luscious Loving!

Life-Changing!

“That group changed my life!”
“You changed my life.”
“The group was life-changing.”

Almost 30 years ago, for several years, I taught a series of sacred sexuality groups with my partner-at-the-time, Kevin Braheny Fortune (still my land partner and dear friend). This was through the school we founded, the Center for Divine Passion. Recently I’ve been in touch with several of the people who went very deep with us. I’m being struck by how often people are saying that the groups were life-changing. I literally can’t count how many people have said that over the years.

Can you imagine how your life might change if you were at peace with your sexual energy? If you knew how to channel it into things you want to manifest in the world? If you were in a relationship that overflowed with abundant pleasure and love?

Imagine how the fullness of being connected to your divine source of power and aliveness — your sexual energy — could make you move through your life with sweetness and joy.

Everything falls into place when you are rooted in this energy.

After many years of doing mostly private work, I am opening up again to doing an online couple’s group. I call it Luscious Loving — because loving can be luscious and energizing to you! If it’s not, then there are things you can learn and feelings you can unpack that will help you embrace all that is possible for you and your beloved. (And that’s a lot!)

This group starts March 27. To find out more about this, including a free intro evening on March 20, click here.

You could change your life!

Inspiration from Pleasure

Pleasure is such a powerful vehicle for inspiration. I was reminded once again about this yesterday, during one of our regular connection ceremonies with my beloved partner John.

We spend an afternoon together once a week, with the intention of deepening the connection between us on all levels — physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. It’s an afternoon of pleasure in many forms — massage, movement, deep communication, and lovemaking.

There was a moment when John needed to step outside for a few minutes. The sun had come out, and he needed to go open the greenhouse doors to let the heat out. (I love this aspect of him, how he is so tuned in to what the land needs in any moment. I call him Brother Earth sometimes.)

I was swimming in pleasure when John left, and not at all impatient that he needed to go. While John was gone, I experienced a deluge of downloads.

I am in the beginning stages of planning a new group for couples. Even though I have taught hundreds of sacred sexuality workshops since 1993, I am creating a new group now, because I’m in a new place with my own growth and evolution. I want to bring all that I have learned into this new offering.

My mind drifted towards the new group, and one idea after another came through. I kept walking into my office to scribble them down. It was like taking dictation from Spirit.

I think the state of pleasure and relaxation was key to being able to receive all this. It was so much fun to being in this creative flow!

I’ll be in touch soon about this group when I work out the details. It’s going to be a good one, focused upon deepening the connection and heightening the pleasure between couples. I can’t wait to share it with you!

Initiation into Mysteries of Sacred Sex

Lovemaking is way more than physical. There are energy pathways throughout your body that get lit up when you activate your sexual energy consciously. This leads to a full-body experience of pleasure that can take you to a place of ecstatic communion — with yourself, your partner, and the universe.

It often takes some rearranging of your normal ways of sexual play to get to a place like this. There is an art to conscious lovemaking, and that art is not usually taught to us as we mature into sexual beings. The good news is that this art can be taught.

I am offering a special kind of session for Valentine’s Day — a Couple’s Connection Ceremony. You can think of it as an initiation into the mysteries of sacred sexuality. I will gently and respectfully guide you into an experience of sweet connection, full-body pleasure, and mystical awareness of the oneness of All-That-Is.

This ceremony will help you to:

  • reconnect with your partner
  • to sink into a field of love and connection
  • to see your partner with fresh eyes, appreciate them and be appreciated in return
  • to remember why you are together
  • to refresh the love that brought you together in the first place
  • to allow the erotic divine energies of god and goddess to move through you and your beloved
  • to feel the ecstatic bliss of a sacred sexual connection

This ceremony is done online so you can be in the privacy of your own home.

You are at choice every moment of the way. I am comfortable with nudity and sexual energy, so if you want to go there during the ceremony, I celebrate your beauty! And if you want to keep the interactions more private, then the ceremony is a great precursor to intimate time with each other after the session. Your comfort is paramount.

If you are interested in this special offer, then click here to find out more.

I look forward to helping you explore the depths of connection and pleasure!

Active and Receptive

One of the things I find really interesting in sexual energetics is the difference between masculine and feminine energies.

This isn’t necessarily connected to whether whether you have a male or female body. I think of masculine as the active principle and feminine as the receptive principle. It’s possible to run either of those energies regardless of which kind of body you have physically.

My energy is predominately feminine or receptive. Most of my lovers have been masculine or active. So my personal experience is with this dynamic, and this is what I want to talk about in this writing.

The active person’s role in lovemaking is to shape the experience. They provide the container for the energy. My partner John says, “I make love to you.” He is focused upon my reactions and how what he is doing resonates through my body. He understands that the more attention he gives my experience, the more energy he receives.

The receptive person’s role is simply to surrender. That is usually what I do in lovemaking. I’ve noticed that the more that I surrender, the better the lovemaking is for both of us. There have been times in the past where I hadn’t embraced that principle fully yet. At moments I would feel guilty, like I wasn’t returning enough energy to my partner. I was simply surrendering to pleasure. But what I found is that when I tried to engineer a more equal exchange, the energy would often fall flat. I’ve been blessed with many wonderful lovers, and they all have had in common that they derived their pleasure from my pleasure.

There is a Tantric teaching that says that the energy that the active one (often the man) puts into opening up the receptive one (often the woman) comes back to him. Because the receptive ones have the capacity to surrender fully more easily, they can access places that the active one has trouble getting to. And when the receptive one accesses those places, they can take their partner along.

And everybody’s happy!

If you’d like support in having a relationship that includes sexuality that makes you smile and sing, I’m here for you! Let’s start with a free Sexual Communion Gateway Session. Click the link to get your session.

A Man’s Perspective

I write a lot about my experience of sexual energetics. Today I asked my partner John Thompson what he experiences as I am having energetic openings. Here’s what he said.

“When I’m making love to you I focus upon a certain part of your body — your breast, your neck, or wherever.” I make love to that part. I admire and adore it. You respond really positively. You get excited and go into a blissful state as you experience me making love to your body.

“When you get excited, I get excited by what I’m causing to happen in you. It makes me want to express even more love towards your body.

“It’s like playing an instrument. I have to know when you’ve had enough stimulation on a certain part of your body. A crescendo happens, like a mini-orgasm in that area. I can sense the energy waning and I back off and move to someplace else.

“It is important to have the orientation of giving pleasure rather than trying to take it. Taking is not coming from love. Giving is considering the other person with love from the heart.”