Peak and Valley Orgasms

In the typical Western sexual encounter, most people experience what I call a “peak orgasm.” It is very genitally focused, and usually reached through extreme tension. There is a quick rush, and then the energy drops rapidly. If you charted it on a graph, there would be a sharp peak, hence the name. Another alternativeContinue reading “Peak and Valley Orgasms”

The Art of Pleasuring – Variation

Variation is a key element in the art of pleasuring. When we receive the same type of stimulation for a long time, the brain tunes it out. We stop hearing the dripping faucet, for instance. Try this experiment for yourself, right now. Rub the palm of your hand with one finger in the same line,Continue reading “The Art of Pleasuring – Variation”

The Art of Pleasuring: Smooth Slow Flow

A guideline to assist you in the art of pleasuring is to incorporate a smooth, slow flow. Moving smoothly from one area to another, rather than jumping around from place to place, is important. Let there be a flow to your touch, to allow the receiver to experience his/her whole body. It can be startlingContinue reading “The Art of Pleasuring: Smooth Slow Flow”

The Art of Pleasuring: Intention

The art of pleasuring is quite complex, but there are some basic ideas that can help you a lot. One concept that is quite useful is intention and attention. Intention begins before touching starts. It’s important to check in with yourself, to ask yourself what your intention really is. Is your touch about giving orContinue reading “The Art of Pleasuring: Intention”

Orgasm – A Glimpse of Enlightenment

One of my first spiritual teachers, a channeled spirit named Dr. Peebles, used to say “Orgasm is a glimpse of enlightenment.” He explained that the moment of orgasm contains the essence of enlightenment — the ecstatic dissolve into a sense of oneness. And furthermore, it is the most accessible glimpse of enlightenment for most people.Continue reading “Orgasm – A Glimpse of Enlightenment”

Make Some Sound!

Did you know one of the best ways to get your sexual energy moving and flowing is to make sound? There are energy centers in the body, called chakras in the yogic and Tantric teachings. There are seven main chakras along the spine, and each one has a different kind of energy associated with it.Continue reading “Make Some Sound!”

Full Moon Wildness

There is something special about the energy of a full moon. It brings out the wild side. It is bright and glowing, yet none of the mundane of daytime is there. It’s a time that encourages experimentation. It’s a time when it’s okay to get a little wild. Or a lot! I feel the goddessContinue reading “Full Moon Wildness”

Full Moon Sex Magic

The full moon this month, on October 20, 2021, has a complex configuration of very potent planets. Without going into too much technical detail, I’ll just say that there is a possibility of either a strong action for more equity and justice, or for global strife and conflict. It’s up to us how we expressContinue reading “Full Moon Sex Magic”

Stories of Sexual Healing

One of the things I love about my work is watching changes in my clients over time. Here are some examples of the way people have blossomed. There was a woman who had history of childhood sexual abuse, and had been shut down sexually for two years with no response or interest. Our work withContinue reading “Stories of Sexual Healing”

How to Make Love to a Sensitive Woman, Part Two

There is one thing that is crucial to understand about how a sensitive woman processes touch. Each touch is a significant event. It creates ripples of pleasure that radiate out from the place that was touched to the periphery of her body, much like the ripples that are created when something is dropped into water.Continue reading “How to Make Love to a Sensitive Woman, Part Two”