Love is Growing

“She rocked my world last night,” he said dreamily. “Oh, my goodness! Oh, my goodness!” It was the last session of a series with a couple who were working to bring back their sexual energy. They were both glowing. This is why I do this work. It is so rewarding to see the changes inContinue reading “Love is Growing”

Sexual Energetics

Do you know about the energetics of sexuality? Understanding sexual energetics is really important in keeping a sexual relationship alive and interesting. If you engage with the energetics of sexuality, sex becomes far more than only physical. The physical can get repetitive and boring. The energetics are infinitely fascinating. You can imagine your body havingContinue reading “Sexual Energetics”

Erotic Energy is Like Rocket Fuel

Erotic energy is like rocket fuel. You know how a rocket is propelled upward by fire at its base? It’s a very good metaphor for how the erotic energy can be used. You can use your fire, the sexual energy that starts in your pelvis, to move that energy up your spine, activating whatever youContinue reading “Erotic Energy is Like Rocket Fuel”

The Fruits of Pleasure

Pleasure is an incredible tool for manifesting. This past weekend was a great example of that. I took some time off for my birthday, and went to Ashland, Oregon with my sweetheart John to visit my dear friend Sabina. We spent some lovely time together, hiking in the Southern Oregon forest, going to a musicContinue reading “The Fruits of Pleasure”

Pleasure: A Tool for Manifesting

Pleasure is a powerful tool in manifesting what you want in your life. Here’s an example: On Monday, I was preparing for the intro evening for my upcoming group, “Erotic Divine Feminine”. I spent the morning creating an outline for the evening, and began thinking about what I wanted to say. I didn’t finish, however,Continue reading “Pleasure: A Tool for Manifesting”

Self-Pleasuring

Many people think of masturbation as something ugly or shameful. It conjures up furtive moments in the bathroom as a teenager, hoping no one will catch you. Here’s a reframe for you: how about calling it self-pleasuring, or making love to yourself? How about approaching it as a worshipful act, something that gets you inContinue reading “Self-Pleasuring”

Peak and Valley Orgasms

In the typical Western sexual encounter, most people experience what I call a “peak orgasm.” It is very genitally focused, and usually reached through extreme tension. There is a quick rush, and then the energy drops rapidly. If you charted it on a graph, there would be a sharp peak, hence the name. Another alternativeContinue reading “Peak and Valley Orgasms”

The Art of Pleasuring – Variation

Variation is a key element in the art of pleasuring. When we receive the same type of stimulation for a long time, the brain tunes it out. We stop hearing the dripping faucet, for instance. Try this experiment for yourself, right now. Rub the palm of your hand with one finger in the same line,Continue reading “The Art of Pleasuring – Variation”

The Art of Pleasuring: Smooth Slow Flow

A guideline to assist you in the art of pleasuring is to incorporate a smooth, slow flow. Moving smoothly from one area to another, rather than jumping around from place to place, is important. Let there be a flow to your touch, to allow the receiver to experience his/her whole body. It can be startlingContinue reading “The Art of Pleasuring: Smooth Slow Flow”

The Art of Pleasuring: Intention

The art of pleasuring is quite complex, but there are some basic ideas that can help you a lot. One concept that is quite useful is intention and attention. Intention begins before touching starts. It’s important to check in with yourself, to ask yourself what your intention really is. Is your touch about giving orContinue reading “The Art of Pleasuring: Intention”