Generally, the connection between my beloved partner John and me flows easily and smoothly. I feel gratitude for the work that we’ve both done to be able to get to this place. But that doesn’t mean it always is easy. Just a little while ago, we were in one of our regular connection ceremonies. TheseContinue reading “When the Magic Doesn’t Work”
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Loving Only One
When I was learning about sacred sexuality, in Marin County, California in the 90’s, the community there was very polyamorous. The workshops encouraged moving from partner to partner, experimenting with what gifts different people had to offer you. There was a lot of freedom there, and also a lot of relationship drama — side attractions,Continue reading “Loving Only One”
Dropping Sexual Shame
Here’s another story of transformation. A couple came to work with me. They were basically ok with each other, but their sexual relationship had gotten neglected because of parenting and lots of responsibilities. They wanted to reconnect and bring back the spark in their relationship. As we worked during a day together in the circle,Continue reading “Dropping Sexual Shame”
The Deep Dive
One of my favorite ways to work is the deep dive retreat. So much can happen at such a fundamental level! Transformation is very likely, if you have a focused and extended time devoted to it. Here is a story of one person’s experience with me here on my land. She came to me feelingContinue reading “The Deep Dive”
The Circle is Emerging Soon
I was able to get down to the medicine circle yesterday! The snow is melting rapidly, and soon it will be revealed again! John and I walked over big patches of snow to get there. The circle itself is still covered, but we went onto the top of the snow and did a little wakeupContinue reading “The Circle is Emerging Soon”
Dreaming of Summer Retreats
This little shrine sits at the beginning of a trail down to the medicine circle on my lovely land in the Sierras, which we call Serenity. A few weeks ago, you couldn’t see any of it! It was covered in snow. Now, spring is here, the snow is melting, and things are emerging from theirContinue reading “Dreaming of Summer Retreats”
What’s the Truth?
I was taking a walk in silence with my partner John the other day, and I noticed how my mind was really busy. I was being very judgmental with myself, criticizing myself for not doing things right, for not being perfect. Reminding myself of all the ways I am a failure. I mentioned this toContinue reading “What’s the Truth?”
Ecstatic Flow
It’s a sublime experience to be with a beloved so intimately that your bodies move all on their own. It’s a wisdom beyond the mind, where your bodies are so tuned into the energy flows of the universe that they move together of their own volition. This is a video of my partner John andContinue reading “Ecstatic Flow”
A Little Help From My Friends
Luscious Loving is getting a little help from my friends! I’m excited to announce that my upcoming couple’s group is going to be deeply enriched by two of my favorite people in the world. My beloved partner, John Thompson, will be joining me each session to assist with teaching about the ins and outs (punContinue reading “A Little Help From My Friends”
Luscious Loving
What Does It Take? What does it take to have luscious loving? There are several different qualities that are necessary for a relationship to blossom. If any of them are missing, there’s a piece missing from the relationship. It’s not as well-rounded and complete. Connection and intimacy are crucial to a sweet relationship. When connectionContinue reading “Luscious Loving”
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