Generally, the connection between my beloved partner John and me flows easily and smoothly. I feel gratitude for the work that we’ve both done to be able to get to this place. But that doesn’t mean it always is easy. Just a little while ago, we were in one of our regular connection ceremonies. TheseContinue reading “When the Magic Doesn’t Work”
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Loving Only One
When I was learning about sacred sexuality, in Marin County, California in the 90’s, the community there was very polyamorous. The workshops encouraged moving from partner to partner, experimenting with what gifts different people had to offer you. There was a lot of freedom there, and also a lot of relationship drama — side attractions,Continue reading “Loving Only One”
Dropping Sexual Shame
Here’s another story of transformation. A couple came to work with me. They were basically ok with each other, but their sexual relationship had gotten neglected because of parenting and lots of responsibilities. They wanted to reconnect and bring back the spark in their relationship. As we worked during a day together in the circle,Continue reading “Dropping Sexual Shame”
What’s the Truth?
I was taking a walk in silence with my partner John the other day, and I noticed how my mind was really busy. I was being very judgmental with myself, criticizing myself for not doing things right, for not being perfect. Reminding myself of all the ways I am a failure. I mentioned this toContinue reading “What’s the Truth?”
Ecstatic Flow
It’s a sublime experience to be with a beloved so intimately that your bodies move all on their own. It’s a wisdom beyond the mind, where your bodies are so tuned into the energy flows of the universe that they move together of their own volition. This is a video of my partner John andContinue reading “Ecstatic Flow”
Luscious Loving
What Does It Take? What does it take to have luscious loving? There are several different qualities that are necessary for a relationship to blossom. If any of them are missing, there’s a piece missing from the relationship. It’s not as well-rounded and complete. Connection and intimacy are crucial to a sweet relationship. When connectionContinue reading “Luscious Loving”
Life-Changing!
“That group changed my life!”“You changed my life.”“The group was life-changing.” Almost 30 years ago, for several years, I taught a series of sacred sexuality groups with my partner-at-the-time, Kevin Braheny Fortune (still my land partner and dear friend). This was through the school we founded, the Center for Divine Passion. Recently I’ve been inContinue reading “Life-Changing!”
Active and Receptive
One of the things I find really interesting in sexual energetics is the difference between masculine and feminine energies. This isn’t necessarily connected to whether whether you have a male or female body. I think of masculine as the active principle and feminine as the receptive principle. It’s possible to run either of those energiesContinue reading “Active and Receptive”
Appreciation for the Courageous
I want to take a moment to appreciate the wonderful people who are or have been my clients. Many of them have struggled with wounding in their sexuality — perhaps sexual abuse or being indoctrinated with sexual shame. This kind of history makes a big impact upon their ability to have a sexual relationship thatContinue reading “Appreciation for the Courageous”
Forgiveness
You may have heard people say that forgiveness is not for the other person but for yourself. I got to see this in action a little while ago, as I worked with a client in a daylong intensive. My client came to me in distress because his sister wanted to end their relationship. He hadContinue reading “Forgiveness”
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