Energetics of Ecstasy

Paying attention to the energetics of sexuality can lead to an experience of sublime opening and dissolving into ecstasy. I had a direct experience of that the other day with my beloved partner John Thompson. Let me tell you little about it so you can get an idea of what is possible.

We were having one of our connection ceremonies, which we make a practice of doing weekly. We set aside several hours to be with each other in an intimate way. These ceremonies begin with practices to help us connect mentally, emotionally and spiritually before we begin connecting physically. (I wrote a guide to these connection ceremonies which you can get by clicking here.)

We were just beginning the physical part of our connection. One of the things that I love doing with him is honoring his lingam (a Sanskrit word for penis which means “wand of light”.) There are many ways to do that, but on this particular day I asked him to lie on his back and I knelt between his legs and placed my heart over his lingam. I felt the light that he channels through his lingam enter my heart and open it to more love. I melted with the power of that energy and the love I felt for him.

A little later, I noticed that my throat and shoulder felt a little deadened. I asked him to kiss me there, and as he did I felt my body awakening. It was as if rays of light radiated out from my throat over my shoulder.

Later still, we had our heads close together. My hands moved to touch the tops of both of our heads. In my mind’s eye, I saw a golden cone of light emanating from the top of my head. I felt a deep connection with John and with the divine.

The upper chakras, or energy centers, were open.

As we lay together facing each other, John’s fingers went to my spine just above the sacrum. I felt a warm tingling move through my pelvis and I began to move like dancing while horizontal. He stroked down each leg and it felt like my legs got filled up with aliveness. I had an image of myself as a sky dancer, a channel of the erotic divine feminine, dancing above him.

Fully energized now, we began to move and merge with each other. Our lovemaking went on for quite some time. There’s a moment that I remember very vividly. I went into orgasmic energy, and as I surrendered to the pleasure, I dissolved into light. It was beautiful purple-blue hued white light.

There are so many energetic principles embodied in this story: the difference between male and female sexual energetics, asking for what you want as you want it, how important the whole body is for lovemaking.

When making love as energetic adepts, it truly is a path of awakening. And it’s so much fun!

Appreciation for the Courageous

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I want to take a moment to appreciate the wonderful people who are or have been my clients. Many of them have struggled with wounding in their sexuality — perhaps sexual abuse or being indoctrinated with sexual shame. This kind of history makes a big impact upon their ability to have a sexual relationship that is full of ecstasy and joy.

If this is you (whether you’ve been my client or not), I want to tell you how much I respect what you had to do to survive. It took tremendous courage and resources within you to survive. That was no small feat! You did what was necessary to navigate a situation that was awful or even horrendous.

If you are ready to take the next step — to move into a new way of being where you are free from the impact those early experiences made upon you, then you are ready and willing to do what it takes to heal. You may not know what to do, but the willingness is there. That willingness is a key ingredient to healing. The motivation to do the work comes from that.

You can heal. You can find joy in your sexuality. I will help you find the way, as I’ve helped hundreds before. It is my honor to hold you in a healing container, to help you on your path towards wholeness, peace and joy.

If you are ready, take the next step. I offer you a complimentary Sexual Communion Gateway Session. Click the link to set it up today!


You may have heard people say that forgiveness is not for the other person but for yourself. I got to see this in action a little while ago, as I worked with a client in a daylong intensive.

My client came to me in distress because his sister wanted to end their relationship. He had been struggling with this for six months, and he was very depressed by the situation.

He had an understanding that because they came from an abusive family, she may have felt traumatized by reconnecting with him. But this understanding was only intellectual and it did not change how he felt. He felt tormented by the situation.

During our work together, he made his way to forgiveness. Forgiveness for his mother who abused him and his siblings, for his mother’s father who probably abused her, and for his father who didn’t do anything to stop his wife from beating him and his sisters. He said that he had paid lip service to forgiveness in the past, but now he really felt it.

I watched his energy lighten up as the day progressed. The act of forgiveness helped him drop away the pain held in his body and mind. A few days later, he reported that both his partner and his assistant had commented that he looks different — lighter, as if a weight has been taken off of him.

Here is what he said about the experience:

“The work with Satya was amazing. I was able to reach levels of forgiveness that I never thought possible. Now I can have a ceremony at which I will burn my sister’s letter and send her love and blessings. The pain and suffering that has plagued the relationship between her and me for decades will be over and I can start moving forward again, with no guilt and a lighter heart.” – JB

Do you have a situation where forgiveness would help you lighten up and be happier? I’d love to support you in reaching a place of peace. To take the first step, click here to book a free Discovery Session by phone to explore whether we are a good fit.

Time for a Deep Dive

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It’s fairly standard in the coaching and therapy world to have hour-long sessions. Most people don’t think anything about that. But I have a different opinion.

I’ve been doing emotional work with clients as a coach for around 30 years. I’ve had around 15,000 client sessions. From that experience I have noticed that there is a trajectory to sessions.

People come to sessions out of their busy days. They have things on their mind, things to get done. They may have built up defenses against uncomfortable feelings. There are a multitude of ways that people’s minds can be busy when they first arrive at a session.

It seems to take about 45 minutes before people really drop into being present and open to delving deep. So that means if it’s an hour session, there are only 15 minutes of really effective work.

This is why I do longer sessions. Even my regular short Zoom sessions are 90 minutes long. This gives much more time to deepen the exploration, to dive into the really important things.

And I take it much further too. My favorite way to work is with a day-long intensive. During this day my client and I go off the clock. We work in an organic flow of talk, movement, silence for introspection, and guided meditations. Whatever seems most appropriate to my client is what we do. We dive deep.

I’ve seen remarkable results with these day-long intensives. Deep healing is possible in a deep dive, and it happens!

If you want to go deep and get a lot done in a short time, I’d love to support you in reaching a place of peace. To take the first step, click here to book a free Discovery Session by phone to explore whether we are a good fit.

The Power of Love

I recently did a day-long intensive with a man who had been experiencing a deep rift with his brother. Originally he wanted to do this day with his brother, but his brother refused, so he came alone to work on his own issues.

He arrived full of pain and righteous anger. His physical body was in a lot of pain, and his emotional body was hard and resistant. He was vehemently holding on to “the way things should be.”

As the day unfolded, he began to soften up. I helped him find compassion for his brother and to understand why his brother was doing the things he had done. I encouraged him to send his brother love, even if it was only in spirit and not in person.

And the power of love showed up! He left that day with a kinder heart and that remained with him. He contacted his brother from that kindness, and his brother opened to him. Now they’re both going to do another day-long helping the two of them heal their wounds and reconnect.

I found it remarkable that the work this person did while not physically with his brother was strong enough to create an opening in his brother. This is the power of love in action!

If you or someone you know has an issue that could benefit from the power of love, I’d be honored to support you. I only do two of these day-long intensives per month, but I’d be happy to talk with you about this. Just click this link to get started with a complimentary Discovery Session by phone to explore whether we are a good fit.

Love is powerful!

Sharpening Appreciation

A couple of weeks ago, we had two fires only a few miles from my beautiful land in the Sierra Nevada mountains of northern California. This was the closest that fire had ever been to us. We watched nervously as it crept closer towards us each day, wondering if we would have to evacuate, wondering if we would still be able to be here.

Thankfully, the rain came and the fires are no longer a problem. I’ve noticed an interesting phenomenon as life returns to normal. I’m in a sharpened appreciation of the beauty of everyday life here. Things that I once took for granted now strike me to the core with their beauty.

Here are some things that I have appreciated recently:

• the golden sunlight at the end of the day shining on the trees outside my kitchen window.

• hearing my partner John lovingly talking to the cat as he prepares her food.

• watching the oak leaves flutter in the wind and bounce sunlight in a shimmer.

• the intricate shape of a lettuce leaf.

• having healthy and delicious plant-based dinners.

• witnessing John and my land partner and dear friend Kevin talk about fixing the tractor. Appreciating their connection that expresses itself in that way.

• having a medicine circle that supports deep healing with clients.

• feeling the deep connection that Kevin, John and I have with each other.

• metaphysical talks over dinner.

• laughing at each other’s jokes.

There’s nothing like almost losing something to make you appreciate it! I thought I appreciated it before, but is has really increased now. As Joni Mitchell said, “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.” I’m working on remembering regardless of whether it’s threatened or not.

What do you appreciate in your life? Leave a comment and celebrate it!

Love is Growing

“She rocked my world last night,” he said dreamily. “Oh, my goodness! Oh, my goodness!”

It was the last session of a series with a couple who were working to bring back their sexual energy. They were both glowing.

This is why I do this work. It is so rewarding to see the changes in a couple or individual, to witness them wake up that spark of vitality and life that may have gone dormant. To see the closeness and intimacy restored. To share in the joy of their connection.

Here’s what the woman in this couple said about working with me:

“I contacted Satya looking to reignite my sexual and creative energy. Since menopause, I’ve been spending a lot more time in bed reading my books than engaging with my partner. Thanks to sessions with Satya and the practices she suggested, I discovered how important alone time and filling my cup is to my partnership, deepened my intimate connection with my partner and tended to an old fear I’d been covering up for decades. I am so grateful for Satya’s wisdom, openheartedness and devotion to this work.”

I share this with you in hopes that it inspires you. If you are struggling to have a sensual/sexual relationship that fills you up with delight, I can help. We can start with a complimentary Sexual Communion Gateway Session. In this session, we’ll talk about what your challenges are and what your vision is, and I’ll share some recommendations for how you can get started on your way. This session has no strings attached. Just click the link to schedule. I’m opening up my schedule for two of these sessions this month.

Sexual Energetics

Do you know about the energetics of sexuality?

Understanding sexual energetics is really important in keeping a sexual relationship alive and interesting. If you engage with the energetics of sexuality, sex becomes far more than only physical. The physical can get repetitive and boring. The energetics are infinitely fascinating.

You can imagine your body having channels or pathways of energy inside it. The sexual energy moves through these pathways like light flowing through a fiber optic channel. As it moves through the pathways, it lights up your whole body. As your body lights up, pleasure spreads all throughout your body. You feel tingly and awakened.

A common mistake that people make when they first start playing with this concept is trying to “do it right.” That can get in the way of the energy moving. You may want to set aside some times that are clearly for practice so that the learning process doesn’t detract from the connection. I believe that the connection is the most important part.

To get started with this, you can imagine a channel that runs from your perineum up to the top of your head along your spine. Build the energy in your pelvis through pleasuring yourself or with a partner. While doing this, take a breath and imagine that pleasure energy moving up the channel in the form of light. Notice how the rest of your body feels when you do that.

There are many ways to play with this concept of sexual energetics. If you’d like to learn more, let me offer you a free Sexual Communion Gateway Session.

Pleasure is Powerful

Pleasure is powerful.

I had an experience a little while ago that showed me this once again. I was presenting an online women’s group, and the last session was happening the next day. I wanted it to be really special, and I didn’t know what to do.

I sat at my desk and looked at the notes that I had created for the group. I had basically done everything that I had imagined doing already, and there was still another evening to go. I drew a blank.

I sat there for a little while. I’m proud to say, not too long. Then I said to myself, “ I’m not going to come up with something creative sitting here at my desk.” I jumped up, packed up my things, and drove down to the lake where I often swim.

As I prepared to get in the water, I asked the question, “What would be the highest and best thing to do for this group?” And I trusted that the answer would come. I walked into the water, and just abandoned myself to the sensual feel of the cool silky water sliding over my skin. Aaaah! It felt so good.

Within a few minutes, a lightening bolt of inspiration struck. What if I did THIS? (I’m not going to get into the details here because that’s not the point of this story.) It was an idea that I loved.

I kept swimming, and more and more ideas came popping in, refining the process, considering details and how to handle them. By the time I got out of the water, the group was basically planned.

The next evening, I facilitated the process with my group. It was powerful! The women went deeply into the process, and they loved it. I felt that I had done a work of service to them, and by extension, put some healing into the universal field.

I don’t think I would have gotten such a inspired process by sitting at my desk, trying to dredge up some inspiration. But it was easy using the pleasure of the water, the movement of my body, and asking for inspiration and trusting that it would come this way.

Breathe into Deeper Pleasure

Take a nice deep breath. Feel your chest and belly expand.

Exhale with a sigh.

Do that again, and notice how different you feel already.

The breath is one of the most powerful tools you have — and you always have it with you! Imagine applying this to lovemaking.

Most people approach lovemaking with tension in their bodies and their breath held. When you do this, you create a contraction in your body that limits how much pleasure you can feel. The pleasure that you do feel stays localized in your pelvis, and there’s only so much pleasure you can hold there before it becomes too much. It often gets released in an orgasm. But often that orgasm is a quick thrill followed by a loss of pleasure and energy.

If you breathe consciously while making love, you create an opening in your body that allows pleasure to fill up your whole body. Orgasm takes longer to get to, but the whole journey towards orgasm is full of delight. And there is not just a quick thrill, but a deep rolling pleasure that includes your whole body and goes on for a long, long time. Imagine how you would feel after experiencing waves of pleasure through your whole body for thirty minutes, or an hour, or even longer! And this is for both men and women!

There are practices that I teach that allow you to experience this for yourself, enhancing your experience of lovemaking and orgasm so that your whole being is enraptured.

If you want a taste of this on your own, just breathe slowly and deeply as you make love.

Sometimes there are issues in the way — things to let go of so that you can experience this birthright of pleasure. If you want to go deeper, let me offer you a free Sexual Communion Gateway Session to explore the possibilities. My schedule is pretty full, but I have an opening for one private client right now.

What might be possible for you?