The new moon on Wednesday is in Libra. This next lunar month is a good time to bring Libra energy into your relationship.

Libra is a sign that is quite immersed in relationships. They are a high priority for someone who is running a a lot of Libra energy. So putting a lot of attention on how your relationship is going is a quality of Libra that can serve the relationship.

Librans value peace and harmony in relationship. They are disturbed by strife. They excel in mediating and peacemaking. This requires tuning into what the other person needs. Communication is a important component of tuning into someone else’s needs.

What is your communication like with your partner? Is there a confrontational or aggressive tone to your conversation? Do you speak words in anger? If this is so, you might benefit from a little dose of Libran harmony.

This is not to say that it’s not okay to be angry. Anger can be a useful wake-up call that something needs to shift. However, there are ways to communicate this gently that make the communication better able to be received.

There are two components to anger. There is the energy of anger, which is fiery and hot. Then there is the issue that you are angry about. When you collapse these two components together, it can result in toxic communication. It’s easy to throw angry words like knives which leave a lasting cut.

I have found that it leads to more harmony if you separate these two components. First deal with the energy of anger. This may be better to do by yourself. Move your body. Scream and shout. Stomp your feet. Pound some pillows. You will probably find that the energy of anger dissipates quite quickly with these kinds of techniques. This will leave you calm and able to discuss the issues that need attention.

If you can have a communication from this calm place, then it’s much more likely that you can connect with your partner as allies working together to solve a problem. A disagreement can be an opportunity to refine your relationship so that it works even better!

Happy new moon!


Monday’s new moon is in Virgo. Virgo is not considered one of the sexier signs. It is usually noted for its analytical abilities and attention to detail. However, there is one aspect of Virgo that I think really can enhance a relationship, and that is the attitude of service.

What would it be like for you to drop it into devotional service towards your partner? Perhaps you could gift them with a day where are you are totally in service to them. Cook them breakfast, or give them a massage, or run errands for them. Ask them what they need, and do it.

The key here is doing all this as an expression of the love in your heart for them, and remembering that love as you do the tasks that would serve them. You can imagine a glowing light in your heart that represents your love, and letting light flow from your heart down your arms into your hands. It flows into whatever task you are doing, and fills it with love, so that the end product is imbued with love. It is like a meditation in motion. That is the devotional aspect of service.

If you choose to do this, give freely with no expectations in return. You may find that you receive gifts beyond your imagination and they may be different than you expect. Try it and see!

The Fun of Costuming

Today is the new moon in Leo. How can you benefit from more Leo energy in your relationship?

Leo energy is dramatic, creative and playful. An actor upon a stage is a good manifestation of Leo energy. Leo enjoys being admired.

A fun way to express Leo in an intimate connection is to play with costuming. Dress up like a god or goddess and let yourself be admired. It can make an encounter feel special to do that.

Many people are stimulated by the visual. Often they have been shamed for that, and have resorted to sneaking a peek for fear of condemnation. (“You are treating me like an object.”) It can be very liberating for them to be openly encouraged in indulging their visual orientation. (“Go ahead and feast your eyes.”)

If you are insecure about how your body looks, remember that sexual energy gives you an aura of beauty. It’s as if the sacred erotic enters your body and makes you glow. It’s when we are the most beautiful.

And most people blossom with a bit of admiration. It feeds the part of us that is insecure about how we are perceived. It’s important to remember that your partner may be taking a risk in costuming, and look at them with eyes of appreciation. See the beauty, not the flaws.

If you find that difficult feelings arise with this, I’m here to support you. A complimentary Sexual Renaissance session is a good way to start. Click the link to find out more.

Enjoy a bit of Leo flair this new moon!

Letting Emotions Flow

Today is the new moon in Cancer. How does Cancer energy enhance a relationship?

Cancer is a water sign, ruled by the moon. It is all about emotions — the most emotional sign of the zodiac. Emotions are hugely important in an intimate connection. When you share your emotions, you open the door to your heart and soul. Often the body follows that opening with its own opening.

Some self-disclosure here — I have five planets in Cancer. It’s a concentration of attention in the area of emotions. I even taught Japanese people how to express their emotions, in visits to Tokyo over the course of ten years. I can be very emotional at times, and I thrive in that arena. So I’m something of an expert on Cancer.

Here’s how Cancer showed up for me recently. My partner John and I have a standing date for once a week. We do our Connection Ceremony* each time, which begins with a check-in from each of us. Lately I’ve had a lot to process, and I was feeling some sadness as I came into our time together.

My mind got busy. “I’m always emotional. He’ll get tired of it. It’s a downer for him to be with this. Don’t cry.”

But I stayed real. I talked about what was up with me, I cried the tears, and then I was clear again. Just like a storm passing over a range of hills, if you don’t resist or cling, the emotions move quickly.

Later, we were sharing a moment of exquisite pleasure. It was slow and delicate, and I was transported into ecstasy. I said to him, “This delight is possible because I cleared out the sadness. It made room for the joy.”

And it’s true. If you are stuffed full of unexpressed emotions, then you go a little numb in order to not feel them. But the numbness is not selective. Pleasure gets numbed along with the pain. But if your emotions are flowing, your energy flows too. And pleasure rides the energy.

Give yourself permission to express your emotions fully, and you will give yourself permission to have more joy. It’s what remains once the emotions clear out — your natural state of being.

If you need support in this realm, I’m happy to help. Allow me to offer you a complimentary Sexual Renaissance session. Click the link to find out more.

With love,

*If you want a copy of “Creating Connection: A Guide to Intimacy”, a step-by-step guide to a beautiful connection ceremony, click here.


Thursday, June 10, 2021 is a new moon in Gemini. To make it more potent, it’s also a solar eclipse, which happens at a new moon where the earth, sun and moon are in precise alignment.

What qualities of Gemini would serve you to bring into your relationship? Gemini is concerned with gathering information and communication. It’s a sign of curiosity. These qualities will serve you well in getting to know more about your partner.

I took a car trip with a lover once. We were in my bare-bones little car, with no sound system and a 12-hour drive ahead of us. We decided to pass the time by asking each other questions about our sexual experiences. We spent almost the whole twelve hours wrapped up in fascinating conversation, and we learned a lot about each other. This is a positive use of Gemini energy.

If you are called to do this, an important ground rule would be to receive your partner’s answer without judgment. It can be vulnerable to talk about such intimate topics, and to be met with judgment can be traumatizing. Remember that any event either feels positive, or it’s a step in someone’s learning process. There are no mistakes, just events that give you more clarity about what you want for yourself.

Here are some questions to get you started:
• What do you enjoy most in our sexual relationship?
• Is there anything you’d like to try with me that we haven’t done?
• Tell me about the first time you had sex.
• What do you fantasize about?
• Where is the most unusual place you’ve had sex?
• Tell me about a time you felt adventurous sexually.

You can also journal on your own about these questions, and look for themes in what you write.

If this conversation uncovers issues that need addressing, I’m happy to support you. Click here to find out more about how to start with a complimentary Sexual Renaissance session.

Ride the power of this Gemini solar eclipse to gather more information about your beloved or yourself!

Sensual Delights

Today is the new moon in Taurus. A new moon is a good time for a new beginning, as it starts a new month-long cycle.

Ah, Taurus! Such an earthy, sensual sign! Taurus is about enjoying all the senses — smells, like the flowers blooming now, or the smell of your lover or yourself. Tastes, like wine and chocolate and fresh-baked bread. Sight, like the colors of those flowers, and the lush green of springtime. Sounds, like the birdsong that has returned to the land, or the soft moans and breaths of your lover. And touch, like the caresses that you give and receive with your lover or with yourself.

Is it any wonder why Taurus season is in May? And Beltane, the Celtic festival of fertility, where people would make love in the fields to assure the fertility of the upcoming crops, is May 1 – right smack dab in the middle of Taurus?

To celebrate Taurus, create a sensual delight for yourself and your partner if you have one. Prepare your space as one of beauty. Include some fragrant flowers, and choose your smoothest sheets. Have plenty of pillows so everything is very comfortable. Prepare some delicious snack food ahead of time. Gather some items that you can use to pleasure your partner’s skin, or yours. A silk scarf can be lightly dragged across naked skin. An ostrich feather can tickle pleasantly. The bristles of a hairbrush create a stimulating sensation on the skin and provide a contrast to the light touch of other things. Use your imagination to notice the textures of things that might create an interesting sensation.

If you have a partner, then you might experiment with blindfolding them so that the other senses get emphasized. Left them lie back and relax, naked, while you stimulate the senses with these items you gathered, as well as your fingertips, your fingernails, your hair, your lips, your breath, and your breasts if you have them. Notice their reactions, and follow their body’s guidance. If you choose you can take turns giving and receiving.

If you’re with yourself, you can still do many of these things. Keep the attitude of self-loving while you enjoy this delight of the senses, which is given to the ultimate lover — you!

Taurus month is an excellent time to begin to awaken your sensuality if it has gone to sleep. If you need assistance with that, I am offering three complimentary Sexual Renaissance sessions in the month of May. This is available until May 20, when Taurus season ends for the year. Act now to harness the energy of the planets!

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Here’s wishing you the sensual delight of a Taurus season!

Knowing Yourself

Sunday, April 11, was the new moon in Aries and we are still in the new moon phase. Aries is the beginning of the zodiac, and the beginning of the astrological year. What do we begin with? Your self.

Your self is the most fundamental part of a relationship. If you are not centered in your yourself in a healthy way, any relationships you have will be problematic. You may have tendencies to give yourself away and not take care of your own needs. You may have problems with stating boundaries.

Aries is the sign of the warrior. I like to think of the peaceful warrior, the one who is strong enough to not need to do battle. When you are centered in your strength, and know that you have a right to take care of your needs and assert your boundaries, then it becomes matter-of-fact instead of a battle. There is no emotional charge. If you don’t have a strong sense of self, then you may not feel like you have a right to take care of yourself. If you assert yourself from that place, it may come out as aggressive because you are anticipating a fight. And if you’re anticipating a fight, that’s what you’ll attract.

The other side of the coin is being self-absorbed to a degree where you don’t consider other people’s needs. This is not sustainable in a relationship either. You might burn out the other person because there is not an equal give-and-take. Or you might create a relationship that doesn’t really satisfy you because the person you attract can’t really meet you.

To honor the new moon in Aries, you might want to look at where are you are in regards to caring for your self. Do you honor yourself? Can you say no without guilt? Do you consider how your actions impact the other?

To take this even deeper in an intimate relationship, a knowledge of yourself is essential for a satisfying sexual relationship. If you don’t know what you like then how can you let your partner know what works for you? We are all wildly different in our sexual preferences. To expect your partner to magically figure out what works for you can set you both up for disappointment in your sexual connection. But if you know what you like, you can gracefully guide your partner into giving that to you.

It’s also a good time to begin explorations into your sexual self. What feels good to you? How do you like to be touched? When you’re alone how do you touch yourself? If you have no idea of where to start with this, or how to communicate what you discover, I can help you. I’ve helped hundreds of others with just that. Click here to find out more.

This is an excellent time to begin a new way of being – a new Moon and the first sign of the zodiac. New moons are about new beginnings, and this is the newest of all the new moons because it’s in Aries. Harness the power of the new cycle!