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Tenth Anniversary with John

John and I recently celebrated our 10th anniversary of being together. I made him a book of photos and writings highlighting fun times we’ve shared over these years. This is its cover page. It was so lovely to look back on these ten years as I made the book. We have really built a powerfulContinue reading “Tenth Anniversary with John”

It Hasn’t Always Been Easy

If you’ve been seeing my posts then you know that I’m crazy in love with my partner John. And even though we are blissfully happy with each other, and even though I’ve taught sacred sexuality for 30 years, with around 15,000 client sessions, it hasn’t always been easy. There was a time a few yearsContinue reading “It Hasn’t Always Been Easy”

What If It Could Be Fun?

What if it could be fun? Luscious Loving doesn’t have to be a lot of work. In fact, it’s better if it’s fun. Things flow more easily, and we’re way more motivated by fun than by doing “work”. This is a message I got from someone who attended my last Luscious Loving intro evening withContinue reading “What If It Could Be Fun?”

Sex Is More Than Physical

Sex is so much more than physical! And it’s a good thing that it is! If it was nothing more than rubbing body parts together, it would get boring pretty quickly. There are only so many ways that you can make it different — different positions, different partners. It still becomes limited. But when youContinue reading “Sex Is More Than Physical”

Every Couple Has the Potential

Every couple has the potential to have a relationship that brings them joy. A relationship where both partners nurture and value their connection. Intimacy, both emotional and physical, is actively sought. I’ve worked with couples with all kinds of stumbling blocks that seem to prevent them from being able to have this for themselves: IfContinue reading “Every Couple Has the Potential”

Lovemaking as an Art Form

Lovemaking, when it’s done consciously, is an exquisite art form. The endless variation in the play of light and firm, slow and fast, stillness and wildness makes each time you connect with your beloved special and different. How do you learn this art? If we lived in a different world, a different time, one whereContinue reading “Lovemaking as an Art Form”

When the Magic Doesn’t Work

Generally, the connection between my beloved partner John and me flows easily and smoothly. I feel gratitude for the work that we’ve both done to be able to get to this place. But that doesn’t mean it always is easy. Just a little while ago, we were in one of our regular connection ceremonies. TheseContinue reading “When the Magic Doesn’t Work”

Loving Only One

When I was learning about sacred sexuality, in Marin County, California in the 90’s, the community there was very polyamorous. The workshops encouraged moving from partner to partner, experimenting with what gifts different people had to offer you. There was a lot of freedom there, and also a lot of relationship drama — side attractions,Continue reading “Loving Only One”

Dropping Sexual Shame

Here’s another story of transformation. A couple came to work with me. They were basically ok with each other, but their sexual relationship had gotten neglected because of parenting and lots of responsibilities. They wanted to reconnect and bring back the spark in their relationship. As we worked during a day together in the circle,Continue reading “Dropping Sexual Shame”