A Guide to Men Who Want to Truly Make Love to a Women

(Things you might not know)

The fact that you are reading this speaks volumes. I appreciate your desire to make love to a woman with more adeptness. You are a treasure indeed!

There’s a very important point to remember when considering how to approach a woman. It’s something that you might not have considered before.

I would venture to say that it’s nearly impossible to find a woman who has never been hurt sexually. There are obvious cases of sexual abuse, but even women who have never been “abused” have probably had the experience of being entered too soon.

Especially when we are young, the frenzy of male testosterone can dominate the experience. Testosterone creates an imperative of “do it, do it, do it!” Unfortunately, that kind of urgency is not as conducive to a full sexual response in a woman.

Women tend to open up (both physically and energetically) slower than men. And if she is not fully open, it can hurt to be entered. That pain gets stored in the body as a memory. And the body remembers that pain and guards against it. The muscles stay tight and the yoni opening doesn’t fully happen. Which leads to more pain.

Because we have been in a patriarchal culture for thousands of years, this memory of pain is in our DNA. Sexual interactions have been focused upon male pleasure, and a woman speaking up about what she wants was discouraged.

Here’s the important message: Even if she knows she can trust you, the body memories from past lovers who rushed the process, plus the heritage from the DNA, are still there. It’s at an instinctual level. So it’s really not about you if your partner needs to feel safe.

Another important message: If you can be patient and do what it takes to encourage a woman to relax and open completely, the energy that will come back to you is far beyond what you can take for yourself by rushing the experience to get to “the good stuff.” You will be bathed in feminine energy beyond your wildest dreams!

I hope this helps you understand a little more about women. Thank you for caring enough to read this.

If you need some assistance with learning what you can do to work with this dynamic, let me offer you a free Sexual Communion Gateway Session. This is a 30-60 minute phone call where we can explore your challenges, create a vision of what you want instead, and I’ll give you my best recommendations for getting started. There’s no pressure, just a sincere desire to be in service. Click the link to book your session.