There is one thing that is crucial to understand about how a sensitive woman processes touch. Each touch is a significant event. It creates ripples of pleasure that radiate out from the place that was touched to the periphery of her body, much like the ripples that are created when something is dropped into water. It is very satisfying to feel the ripples go all the way out as far as they can. It’s easiest to feel this when there is space between touches so interference is not created.
Look at the difference between the first and second picture. There is a harmony and serenity in the first picture where there is only one source of rippling. Compared that to the second picture where many raindrops are hitting the surface of the water. The energy is chaotic and confusing. This can be similar to a reaction that a sensitive woman might have to too much touch too quickly.
Many people, no matter how good they are as lovers, find this a new concept. I was never taught this concept. I had to figure out for myself, and it took me years to be able to articulate it. So if you have this kind of sensitivity, it is important to communicate this to your lover in a loving way, without making them wrong.
I have been blessed with many wonderful lovers in my life — men who are attentive, intuitive, skilled, embodied and eager to please. I remember a time with one of these dear men. I had just understood this concept for myself and figured out a way to talk about it. I decided to show him rather than trying to tell him. He touched me, and this is what I said.
“What a lovely touch! Let me keep feeling it. I’m still feeling it. I’m still feeling it! It’s still rippling out. Thank you for letting me feel all of it. Ohhh . . . ohh!”
I continued with this until I didn’t feel it anymore. And he got it! After that he gave me way more space to feel each touch. I enjoyed his touch more, and responded with more pleasure. That motivated him to do more of the pauses. We were both happy.
If you’re a sensitive woman, or her lover, I hope this serves you well. If you need support, we can start with a complimentary Sexual Renaissance session. Click the link to find out more.
May your full moon be filled with delight!
If you missed Part 1 of this topic, check here.
Satya Lila 